Monday, January 24, 2011

You Are Not Happy Because...

Do you know why you are unhappy? [Pic]

I see a stream of 'bad day' updates in Facebook today.

There is nothing unusual. In fact, I often see unhappy expressions in social media such as Facebook, Twitter and Tumblr. Outside that virtual space, similar voices are also heard in my office, my home and on the streets.

Everyone becomes unhappy at one time or another and some feel that way more often than others. The good news is that, no matter what state of happiness you are in, you can always be happier. To do that, you need to know why you are unhappy.

Everyone can be happier. [Pic]

Here are 10 common 'traits' of unhappy people. Check out which are the ones responsible for your blues:

10. You pursue a perfect world

You cannot stand flaws even when they are tiny. Your days are typically spent fussing over hairline cracks.

09. You compare, compare and compare

Life isn't fair, you think. Other people are always having it good and your life on the hand, is full of unpleasant stuff.

08. You have a wrong sense of fashion

You think it is fashionable to feel the blues and wallow in self-pity. You feel that if you carry a little more sunshine in you, your other unhappy friends are not going to accept you so well.

Do you stick around with unhappy people? [Pic]

07. You live in a toxic environment

The people around you constantly remind you that you have reasons to be unhappy. You believe them.

06. You expect happiness to come from the outside

You wait for the right weather. You yearn for praises. You chase after material things. You believe all these externalities will eventually make you happy.

05. You live in the past

You always look back and never stop lamenting 'if only...'. You miss out much of the present and fear what might come next.

Do you see ruin
or do you see growth?

04. You like to blame

When something goes wrong, you are quick to conclude that someone else is responsible for it. You spend much time substantiating why you are right.

03. You are blind

Not visually though. However, you fail to see all the goodness in yourself and in others. On the contrary, you focus on everything and anything negative.

Do you see one thing that's good
or everything else that's not?

02. You don't give enough

You want more for yourself so you hardly give. You are always discontented and wonder why you have so little.

01. You worry all the time

You frequently fear for the worst. Your worries keep you awake in the night and make you powerless in the day.

Unhappiness is like flu. Don't catch it too often.
When you do, get well soon
If you see much of yourself in the above pointers, you are likely to be quite unhappy. Knowing what causes your unhappiness gives you a better control over your life. Recognize the culprits and take charge of your mind.

Unhappiness is like flu and you do get it sometimes. The point here is to minimize the occurrence and recover fast whenever you are down with it. Build positive habits and let it ward off occasional blues quickly.

Happy or not, it is entirely up to you.

You might also like to read:

"Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine." ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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George Ung said...

I love this post. :)

Anonymous said...

well-written! <3