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| Anger is a normal human emotion. [Pic] |
We all get angry from time to time.
The scenes in the movie "Anger Management" make us laugh. However, it is far from funny if it should happen to us.
You may not have experienced such extreme emotional state seen in the move. But, whenever something or someone triggers that unexplainable 'anger button' in you, you would simply explode, just like anyone else.
Can you even control that? If not, can you at least reduce its occurrence?
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| Anger is not a right. Neither is it wrong. [Pic] |
What is anger?
Anger is a normal human emotion. There is nothing wrong with feeling angry. However, things can go really wrong if you are unable to manage anger.
Anger management
'Anger Management' is often seen as therapeutic sessions by trained personnel for patients who are constantly suffering from angry outburst.
That leads us to think of 'anger management' as something for someone who is 'sick in the head' and having some serious troubles.
Not quite. All of us get angry and it is just a matter of degree.
Let's face it, our emotion fluctuates. Just because we do not need professional 'Anger Management', it doesn't mean that we do not need to know anything about 'anger management'.
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| Anger releases energy. Learn to channel it constructively. [Pic] |
Why do we get angry?
It is often due to unfulfilled expectation.
Your mind anticipates an outcome and when that is not matched with the reality, pressure develops in your mind. Certain chemicals such as adrenaline are released and a surge of energy goes through your body. You become 'angry'.
The energy has to go somewhere. When it is released in an unmanaged way, it can cause harm to someone or something. Alternatively, you can choose to suppress it and let the pent-up energy create a greater explosion sometime later.
The misaligned reality can be due to your own doing or that of others. It could be something within your control or it could be something totally out of your hands.
You need to know what causes you to be angry.
You need to know what causes you to be angry.
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| 'Anger' is the creation of your own 'thinking'. [Pic] |
The change begins with you
You are angry because you set rules and are slow to change them. The world does not evolve around your rules. Not everyone knows and understands your rules. Even if they do, they decide in what way they want to be bound by them.
Before you do anything to change yourself, understand that 'anger' is the creation of your own 'thinking'. It is not caused by people or things around you.
You cannot control how others respond to you and you cannot control mother nature. However,you can control the way you think.
When you control your mind, you control your life.
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| Anger is a manifestation of how you think. [Pic] |
How do you control your mind?
You think with your 'mental muscle'. Just like any other muscles, you need to exercise and build them so that they become strong enough to work well for you.
Thinking is a form of conversation with yourself. If you tell yourself good stuff, you believe in them over time. The converse is also true.
In short, think positive. See "Self Dialog: Look Who's Talking?"
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| Thinking is a habit. [Pic] |
Positive thinking is a habit
So is negative thinking.
Some of us are aware that negative thinking is not helpful but are unable let that bad habit go. We let ourselves sink into that 'pit of despair' and wonder why the world is being so unfair. See "The Power of Habit"
A good habit can be acquired and a bad one can be kicked. If it seems too tough to do so, chop the chore into parts and handle one bit at a time. See "The Power of Small Steps"
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| A man is about as big as the things that make him angry. [Pic] |
Not everything is within your control
Don't be a control freak on yourself or others. Learning to let go is not as difficult as it seems.
Focus your energy on lifelong learning and try to "Be a "Better Me" Everyday".
Very often, you are the main stumbling block in your life. You may be over critical with yourself and mostly in nonconstructive manners. Read "You Are Your Worst Enemy" and see if you are being so.
While you want to learn to be more flexible with your rules, you do not want to end up living by others' rules. Set your boundary right and "Don't be a People Pleaser".
Start building your ability to manage anger today. Remember, "For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness." (Ralph Waldo Emerson)
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"A man is about as big as the things that make him angry." (Winston Churchill)
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